I celebrated my 27th birthday three days ago (btw, everything should be celebrated on the beach) and I’m still sitting with the fact that I’m officially in my late 20′s. It’s a weird feeling because it’s the first birthday that I can remember that’s made me feel “funny,” for a lack of a better word. Not in the usual “Ahhh, I’m almost 30 kinda way.” Thirty just doesn’t really scare me.
Moreso, it’s made me think a lot about relationships. (Also, not in the “Ahhh, I’m almost 30, I need to get married sort of way.) I’ve been trying to figure out what kind of relationship would best suit me. I know that it’s not something that I need to worry about and if I just live, eventually I’ll arrive at the answer. However, I’m a thinker. And in the 2 1/2 months since I’ve been in Brazil, I’ve been in about three different interesting situations and they’ve made a few things clear to me about who I am (or confused me a bit more). I’ll make a post about all of them this week and to make sure I commit to it. I’ll list them all here.
1. Fidelity. Is It Necessary for a Marriage?
2. Can Men Really Date A Woman That is More Successful?
3. The Complexities of Dating Across Races and Cultures
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Rhona
1 year ago
Well, Happy 27th!! I hope you enjoyed your special day to fullest on the beach! Now, that is what I’m talking about.
Can’t wait to hear about the “situations” you are/were in. Sounds like fun to me.
I have no points of reference since I don’t date and guys don’t like me, it seems, as a rule but I think going with the flow and being true to yourself is a good guide. Good luck and have fun.
Also, my blog has changed to a new site and header. I hope you still enjoy.
Viajera
1 year ago
Happy belated! I hope that you treated yourself well on your special day.
My two cents:
1. Yes, if you don’t want to deal with an angry partner and despite the hypocrisy of (too many) men. I’ve know a few people who have done the “open relationship” thing… Turned out that in most cases only 1 of the pair knew it was an open relationship!
2. Yes, but takes a great, mature guy not to resent the hell out of it. I find some guys to be VERY insecure. Woman also has to be confident and sensitive enough to navigate this mindfield which is problematic, but not necessarily a deal-breaker.
3. We could have an entire symposium about this. The relationship has to be strong, with good communication and trust if the relationship is to survive the naysayers. Having dealt with a partners racist/ignorant family members, I find that sometimes you have to say “fuck them” and other times you just have to make peace, sit down and sup with them.
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Viajera
1 year ago
Hey Shannon. Please see my blog for your blog award.
Viajera´s last blog ..I know you’re dead, but Happy Birthday, Bob Marley!